Looking back in time, have you ever wondered why you got into a relationship with your wife/girlfriend? Or have you ever wondered why you stuck to a bunch of good friends through thick and thin? Or why have you choosen that particular person as your business partner? What exactly is the magical formula or potion to substain that relationship you are looking for or you are already in?

The answer lies in creating common goals, common values and doing common activities together. In every relationship two key elements dictate if the relationship will be successful and lasting. Firstly its the purpose of the relationship. It might be for companionship, a person looking for another person for company or to confide their troubles to. It might be for protection, a group makes it harder for others to harm you. Or it might be for economic progression on both part of the parties involved, the principal of leverage applies here whereby different parties with different abilities team up to achieve a common goal drawing on each other's strength. Secondly, its the meaning of the relationship. What does this relationship means to either party involved? Is the person an integral part of the other party's life? Does the person provide something the other party is looking for? Or is the other party merely leeching on the other person's resources and not contributing?

For any relationship to work, all parties involved must contribute to a common goal, providing coverage for each other, creating values for each other. In this way you will become an integral part of the person life and you will gain the trust and in turn the protection and help from the other party.

Relationship building is an art and its not done by copying the actions of others, most important element of any relationship is that actions taken must be from the heart not merely doing it just to show others that you did something.